We have so many default associations in our society, don't we? We believe that mothers (for instance) always nurture their children. We have ideas about pastors being "Godly" (whatever that means) and good leaders and kind and compassionate toward their wives. We have ideas about how wealth brings great comfort and not more stress. We could all do to bring fewer assumptions to the world and more understanding in their place. I appreciate you for talking about a tough and personal topic. It is not easy to go tooling around in the shed of our pasts. It's not easy to go digging when things are easier left in shallow graves. My best to you. -Roman